As if getting a divorce were not stressful enough for some couples, divorce attorneys are finding that dealing with the COVID-19 pandemic has increased that stress exponentially for some clients.
Much of this stress is due to the ways in which stay-at-home orders have affected couples and families as well as how shutdowns have strained people financially.
How do you get through this if you’re in the midst of a divorce and now dealing with all of these new stressful conditions?
Here is some great advice on making the wisest choices before or during a divorce so you will eventually see the light at the end of the tunnel and be ready for your decree to be signed!
The Problem of Separation While Socially Isolating
Separating can be difficult when you’re socially isolating due to COVID-19 stay-at-home orders, especially if one of you was supposed to move out or are just sharing a home for financial reasons.
What seemed like it would work before considering working hours spent away from the home might be a very different situation right now if you’re stuck together all day.
Given the situation, divorce lawyers recommend to do your best to separate within the home, either by assigning different floors or rooms in the home and separating your lives as much as possible.
Live a single life, avoid hanging out together in the evenings, don’t eat each other’s food, and follow other similar guidelines.
The separation period before a divorce serves to prepare you both for living without each other, so do your best to do that even if the pandemic has you stuck in the same house.
Dealing With Money During COVID-19
One thing that divorce lawyers suggest during pandemic shutdowns and all this time you may have to spend together is to initiate discussion about your finances and the division of your property.
These are stressful topics, so it’s important that you both stay unemotional and clear-headed; however, if you can make some of these decisions ahead of time, finalizing your divorce will be that much easier.
Gather all the financial documentation you’ll need so there are no issues once you’re able to move forward.
Working Together With A Livable Plan for Pandemic And Beyond
Beyond just the finances and dividing of marital property, getting a divorce involves a lot of other planning; being forced to share the same space during this period does as well.
Divorce lawyers recommend that you utilize the time most efficiently by coming up with some workable plans.
Start off by creating a living plan so you can handle things like separation during social isolation, co-parenting while being separated the rest of the time, and how to handle pandemic-related concerns like going for groceries, reducing exposure, and keeping everyone safe and reasonably happy.
Once you have a plan to live by, continue on working out your divorce plan since these are critical plans you’re going to have to make anyway.
Identify your individual needs and expectations from the divorce, then start discussing and negotiating.
Keep your emotions under control and remember that you will both need to compromise on many things to solidify a good divorce plan that will be accepted by the family court.
This is also a great time to work with a mediator if one might be necessary and smooth out as many of the bumps as possible while moving forward.
Ask Your Divorce Attorney for Advice
Going through a divorce during the COVID-19 pandemic is not the most ideal situation; however, if you stay calm and remain willing to work together, you and your soon-to-be-ex can get through it.
Divorce attorneys understand how stay-at-home orders can put a crimp in things, yet the time can be put to good use.
If you need advice on how to proceed or more details on how to carry out your planning and decision making at home to continue your divorce even in these unprecedented times, your lawyer is there to help you via email, phone calls, or even a virtual meeting.
Reynaldo Garza, III - Attorney at Law
680 East St. Charles St, Suite 600
Brownsville TX 78520